I was listening to Ken Dychtwald during an interview recently and he was talking about his book: “With Purpose.” (Please see the bookstore)
The main points of the book are this:
~live within your means
~the importance of quality relationships
~extended work
~live a life with purpose
Enjoy!
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While watching a story on Narcissim in America this morning, I realized that every one of my reader’s probably knows of someone who falls into that category.
The interview was with Dr. Drew Pinsky and Dr. Mark Young, co-authors of the book entitled “The Mirror Effect: How Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America”. (Please go to the BookStore page to order a copy)
This really is becoming an epidemic in our society. I notice with my teenage girls and their friends that they are CONSTANTLY taking picures and videos of themselves with their cell phones and cameras and then posting them all over their MySpace or YouTube pages for the whole world to see. Some of the photos/videos are taken from an arm’s length and tend to reveal more than they should for children their age.
This generation is obsessed with themselves. I have never seen anything like it. There is not a mirror that does not get a second glance when they or their friends walk by.
There are a myriad of ways that they are learning this behavior: Reality TV, Young Celebrities, YouTube, Gossip Blogs just to name a few. And how do you stop them from watching shows like: “The Secret Life of An American Teenager?” How can watching a show about a pregnant teenager possibly help?
From the book review:
“In the last decade, the face of entertainment has changed radically—and dangerously. The soap opera of celebrity behavior we all consume on a daily basis—stories of stars treating rehab like vacation, brazen displays of abusive and self-destructive “diva” antics on TV, shocking sexual imagery in prime time and online, and a constant parade of stars crashing and burning—attracts a huge and hungry audience. As Pinsky and Young show in The Mirror Effect, however, such behavior actually points to a wide-ranging psychological dysfunction among celebrities that may be spreading to the culture at large: the condition known as narcissism.
The host of VH1’s Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew and of the long-running radio show Loveline, Pinsky recently teamed with Young to conduct the first-ever study of narcissism among celebrities. In the process, they discovered that a high proportion of stars suffer from traits associated with clinical narcissism—including vanity, exhibitionism, entitlement, exploitativeness, self-sufficiency, authority, and superiority. Now, in The Mirror Effect, they explore how these stars, and the media, are modeling such behavior for public consumption—and how the rest of us, especially young people, are mirroring these dangerous traits in our own behavior.
Looking at phenomena as diverse as tabloid exploitation (”Stars . . . they’re just like us!”), reality-TV train wrecks (from The Anna Nicole Show to My Super Sweet 16 to Bad Girls Club), gossip websites (TMZ, PerezHilton, Gawker), and the ever-evolving circle of pop divas known as celebutantes (or, more cruelly, celebutards), The Mirror Effect reveals how figures like Britney and Paris and Lindsay and Amy Winehouse—and their media enablers—have changed what we consider “normal” behavior. It traces the causes of disturbing celebrity antics to their roots in self-hatred and ultimately in childhood disconnection or trauma. And it explores how YouTube, online social networks, and personal blogs offer the temptations and dangers of instant celebrity to the most vulnerable among us.
The Mirror Effect raises important questions about our changing culture—and provides insights for parents, young people, and anyone who wonders what celebrity culture is doing to America.
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Think and Grow Rich! (ISBN 1-59330-200-2) is a classic motivational book. Written by Napoleon Hill and inspired by Andrew Carnegie, it was published in 1937 at the end of the Great Depression. In 1960, Hill published an abridged version of the book, which for years was the only one generally available. In 2004, Ross Cornwell published Think and Grow Rich!: The Original Version, Restored and Revised (Second Printing 2007), which restored the book to its original content, with slight revisions, and added the first comprehensive endnotes, index, and appendix the book had ever contained.
The text of Think and Grow Rich! is founded on Hill’s earlier work, The Law of Success, the result of more than twenty years of research based on Hill’s close association with a large number of individuals who achieved great wealth during their lifetimes.
At Carnegie’s bidding, Hill studied the characteristics of these achievers and developed fifteen “laws” intended to be applied by anybody to achieve success. Think and Grow Rich! itself condenses these laws further and provides the reader with 13 principles in the form of a philosophy of personal achievement.
Reflected in these principles is the importance of cultivating a burning desire, faith, autosuggestion and persistence in the attainment of one’s goals. Hill also discusses the importance of overcoming many of the common fears that can adversely affect one’s thinking and potential.
In his introduction, Hill refers to the “Carnegie Secret”, a conception which he reports is the foundation of all success and appears to be the premise of the book. Hill promises to indirectly describe this “secret” in every chapter, but never state it plainly, believing the use of the secret is only available to those who possess a “readiness” for it, a disposition Hill describes as essential to the concept itself.
Think and Grow Rich has sold consistently since its first publishing. According to one publisher, the book has now sold more than 30 million copies worldwide. Think and Grow Rich is currently ranked #9 on the BusinessWeek Best-Seller List for paperback business books and has been on the aforementioned list for 22 months as of April 2007 (from Widipedia).
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Thoughts become words
Words become Actions
Actions become habits
Habits become character
Character becomes your destiny
Dianne
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7 Qualities of a Good Leader
The author is unknown but the principles are very relevant to your business. I thought so highly of the principles that I just had to share them:
“1. A good head to be able to evaluate the quality of ideas and suggestions presented to him.
2. A good heart to be able to be compassionate and fair with the people.
3. A good spirit to be able to hear the voice of God. Some paths God will lead you down don’t make head and heart sense at the time.
4. A good eye to be able to see things other people cannot.
5. A good tongue to be able to communicate the vision to the people and motivate them to follow.
6. A good hand to be able to do the things that need to be done. Knowing the right way is not the same as doing it.
7. A good foot to set an example for the people. A minor flaw can outshine a major mission in the eyes of small minds.”
Author Unknown
Let me know what your thoughts are on these principles and what they mean to you.
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There are Six Basic Fears in Life. This article will discuss the first fear.
Please read the other Five as they become available to evaluate whether any of these Fears are gripping you and YOUR life right now. Or, conversely, maybe one of the Fears had a grip on your life and you have overcome that Fear. If that is the case: Congratulations! for facing that Fear and not letting it defeat you.
Once you understand the Fears, maybe you will identify with one of them and want to overcome that Fear and change not only your life but also your outlook on life. Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.
The First Fear is the Fear of Poverty.
“There can be no compromise between poverty and riches! The two roads that lead to poverty and riches travel in opposite directions. If you want riches, you must refuse to accept any circumstance that leads toward Poverty.” ~Napoleon Hill (Riches here mean financial, spiritual, mental, and materials estates.)
Does that statement make sense to you? Do you relate to it? Fear eliminates reason, purpose, enthusiasm, initiative and leads to uncertainty, procrastionation…well, you get the picture. If a Poverty mindset creeps into your way of thinking, it is almost impossible to let it go and escape it.
If you take a really good look at yourself, you may not like what you see. But in order to rid yourself of this mindset, you need to really do a thorough self-examination. Ask a trusted friend or someone you are close to about their opinion of you. Only do this, though, after you have taken a good, hard look at yourself (this takes courage). You may not like what you hear but if the truth is what you are after, you have to have an open mind and be willing to listen to what that person tells you. Really listen. You have now taken the first step in ridding yourself of the Poverty mindset.
Here are the Symptoms of the Fear of Poverty:
Indifference, Indecision, Doubt, Worry, Overcaution and Procrastination.
Do You Have the Courage to take a deep look into who you really are and face your Fears? Do you have any of the named Symptoms from Above? Does this Fear have a grip on your life?
You can rid yourself of this Fear.
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Do you have a “Bucket List?” I know that was the name of a recent movie but I have a reason for asking…
Every time I tell someone about something I am doing on my “list of things that I have always wanted to accomplish” they say “Oh…your Bucket List.” So now, I just call it my Bucket List.
My Bucket List includes things that I have wanted to do my whole life. All of the items are important to me because they are my list. Some of the items may be silly to others but because they are things that I wanted to accomplish in my lifetime, they are mine. No one can make the list for me and no one can accomplish the things that I want to achieve.
For instance, I worked in “corporate world” for years. I am determined not to go back to that world but, instead, build a successful home-based business. I have been there and done that with corporate America. Not bad, but “no thanks.” Not any more.
I wanted to learn how to play the piano ever since I could remember. I will now begin my fifth year starting in January. When my piano teacher told me that I was now at the “intermediate” level recently, I about fell off my piano stool. Me, at the intermediate level. Wow! Perseverance at its finest. It has taken one lesson a week and many hours of practice but I acheived that level with the help of my instructor.
The point to all of this is that if you begin slow and steady, persevere, practice the art of Network Marketing and learn from people who are willing to help you, then Success will come.
Just as with the piano, there are two methods. The “watch and mimick what I am doing” method. That method allows you to begin playing songs immediately. But what have you learned? You skipped all of the lower level skills that you need to build your strengths upon.
The other method, which is the method I am being taught, is the slow and steady method. I virtually started out at the Kindergarten level. That is what I tell everybody because I knew nothing except that the instrument sitting in front of me was a piano. I am now at the intermediate level because I didn’t rush it. I have taken the time to learn the methods, practiced countless hours every week and everything I am being taught is a stepping stone to the next level.
This is EXACTLY like Network Marketing. Network Marketing is Building Relationships.
How can you expect to start at the top when you have not gone through the steps to find out how to get there? With no instruction and mentoring, you are going to burn out very quickly and get lost in the “where do I go from here” phase. This method will take you spiraling downward until you finally give up.
Take inventory of where you are at and then decide: “What is on my Bucket List?”
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…and only by influencing my mind with positive emotions will I be able to communicate with infinite intelligence.
I was just on a mental cleanse call where we talk about and discuss the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Every week we read a chapter and discuss it. You can get on the call at 3p EST, 8p EST or both.
The interpretations of the latest chapter, Chapter 12-The Subconscious Mind, are so powerful that you just cannot help but listen with intent and then want for more. Your assignment every week is to write your thoughts about what you just read
The title of this article and the follow on sentence were written in one of the assignments sent in by a gentleman in the group. The sentence basically sums up the chapter.
Your subconscious mind dominates every thought in your head. And here is the sad part: the negative influences in your life are so overwhelming that you don’t even realize what it is doing to you. Negative thoughts and influences do not allow you to function or to have Infinite Intelligence.
There are Seven major negative emotions:
Fear
Jealousy
Hatred
Revenge
Greed
Supersition
Anger
Positive and Negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time. If you keep the negative thoughts in your subconscious how can you let any of the positive thoughts in? It is as if your subconscious mind has a gate with a gatekeeper. If negative thoughts are allowed to stay, that is how you will live your life every single day.
There are Seven major positive emotions:
Desire
Faith
Love
Sex
Enthusiasm
Romance
Hope
Can you see the difference in thoughts? With the positive emotions, you are allowing yourself the ability to communicate with infinite intelligence.
Being dragged down by all the negative thoughts allows you to go nowhere. It is as if you are being swallowed up by the negative thoughts and they have you in a tight grip not allowing anything positive to be brought into your thought process. The presence of a single negative in your consciuos mind is sufficient to destroy all chances of constructive aid from your subconscious mind.
It is your responsibility (or with the help of a mastermind group) to make sure that positive emotions constitute the dominanting influence in your mind. Here the law of habit will come to your aid.
Form the habit of applying and using the positive emotions! Eventually they will dominate your mind so completely that the negatives cannot enter it.
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When I first read the title of this Chapter I thought, “Oh boy, this is going to be a controversial topic.” But after reading the Chapter, I discovered that what it was really talking about was taking away the physical act portion of sex and making it productive and not counter-productive through the thoughts you have in your mind.
Sex is a physical act. Granted. But what it talks about here is more than that. It talks about harnessing the power of sex for the greater good.
Sex used for the wrong reasons can be destructive. By harnessing the power, you can become more than you imagined….thus, the word “transmutation.”
Transmutation means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression to thoughts of some other nature. When harnessed and used correctly, there are endless possibilities which open up to you including the accumulation of riches.
Scientific research has come to two conclusions: 1) The men of greatest achievement are those with highly developed sex natures—men who have learned the art of sex transmutation, and 2) the men who have accumulated greatest fortunes, etc. were motivated by the influence of a woman. I know, shocking, right guys! What’s the old saying? “Behind every great man stands a great woman.” (something like that).
The emotion of sex contains the secret of creative ability. That is what this chapter talks about extensively. There are 10 mind stimuli: eight of them are natural and constructive and 2 are destructive.
The mystery of sex transmutation allows you to go to a higher plane in your senses and your thinking. You develop a “Sixth Sense.” Without this “sixth sense” you cannot unleash your creative imagination. Hunches come from a sixth sense.
The plane analogy was perfect: If you are on the ground you can only see so far, but go up in a plane and you can see over the horizon.
When sex is harnessed and transmuted, this driving force is capable of lifting people into that higher sphere of thought that enables them to master the sources of worry and petty annoyance that beset their pathway on the lower plane.
People who are highly sexual attract people toward them. Someone in this position is a GREAT sales person. They have learned to harness the “sexual” side of their inner self and put that energy to a greater use.
I think about the times when I have been so in love and the times when love has escaped me for various reasons.
The times that you are “in love” the world seems right and everything is going your way. But, let an event creep in to take that love, steer you off course and trouble brews within yourself beyond your control.. You lose your sense of “being centered.”
Because of this, your sexual transmutation has gone haywire. You can feel nothing but a sense of loss. Nothing feels right, smells right, looks right, tastes right. How can you harness that sexual energy into something else when it feels as if you have none left to give?
You need that sense of sexual well-being and wellness in order to put that energy to use in other aspects of your life and for transmutation to take place. When you have thoughts that are positive and constructive, the enthusiasm and determination will rise once again to the surface.
I am in the forty to sixty age range where there is the sense of calm and my “emotions” of sex are not a driving force like they were when I was younger. I am not in the “child bearing” years any longer so there is no need for the “reproductive” hormones to be put on overload. My “sowing of my wild oats” days are gone…I no longer need them.
I am content (most of the time) and do not need to prove anything to any one sexually. I can take my physical expressions and emotions of sex and use those to transform and stimulate my mind and concentrate on growing my business beyond my wildest dreams.
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When is it time to say, “My relationship is in trouble, and we need help?” How do you know when that time is? By Sharon Rivkin, M.A., M.F.T, for www.hitchedmag.com
When couples wait too long to ask for help, the relationship may be beyond repair. The sooner help is sought, the better chance there is of recovering, saving and actually strengthening the relationship. This includes issues dealing with affairs or other types of betrayal.
The longer we wait, the more entrenched we get in destructive patterns and resentment and all hope for change is lost.
The longer we wait, the more entrenched we get in destructive patterns and resentment and all hope for change is lost. At a certain point we don’t even want change… we just want to be done.
The seven warning signs that a relationship is in trouble are:
1. Fighting has become the rule rather than the exception to the rule.
2. You find yourself looking outside the relationship for comfort, care, and understanding.
3. You can’t remember what attracted you to your partner in the first place.
4. There is little or no intimacy in your relationship — sleeping in different rooms or different beds, lack of interest, anger, and hostility so that intimacy is out of the question.
5. Spending very little time together, friends seem to be more important than your partner.
6. Reactions to situations are disproportionate to the content of the disagreement (i.e., feeling your partner doesn’t love you because she/he didn’t like the meal you cooked).
7. Feeling helpless and hopeless to change anything. Feeling done with the relationship, but unclear as to where to go and what to do. Feelings of anger, resentment, pain, and desperation are predominant.
If any or all of these describe you in your relationship, your relationship is in trouble and it won’t be long before something more drastic happens, such as an affair, arguments get worse and inflate with intensity, increased jealousy, silence for longer periods of time, and sometimes even physical and/or verbal abuse.
Before your relationship reaches that critical crisis point, look at the warning signs and do something before it’s too late:
Seek psychotherapy
Read books
Talk to a spiritual/religious advisor
Without help, the relationship will never get better with time; once a certain level of resentment, anger, and hostility hits, it will simply get worse and worse. Avoiding a total crisis and saving the relationship is done by knowing when you’re in trouble and taking immediate action.
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